I THOUGHT I WAS DOING EVERYTHING RIGHT.
Growing up, I always felt like we were behind.
Not behind the billions of people around the world who had less than us. I never thought about them. I was comparing us to the family next door. Two Cadillacs. A brand new truck. Blue Bell ice cream in the freezer before anyone else had cable.
I thought something was wrong with us.
What I did not understand as a child was that the only real difference between our family and theirs was simple: they had two incomes. My mom was doing it alone. She was not behind. She was extraordinary. I just did not have the context to see it.
That kind of comparison, measuring what you have against the people above you instead of recognizing how much you actually have, is a pattern. And patterns run in families for a reason. Nobody taught us different. Nobody showed us the playbook. We did what we saw.

